The C-section that Wasn't- An Amazing Childbirth Story

Labor is like life. Sometimes it goes smoothly and as hoped for, and other times it is touch and go with the ultimate outcome in doubt until the very end. Her labor was anything but smooth. She was past her due date, the fetal monitor repeatedly indicated the baby was under stress, and progress was excruciatingly slow, making for a long and difficult afternoon for both patient and doctor, as the outcome was anything but certain.

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I had made arrangements for her to arrive in the hospital that morning. She was 41 weeks pregnant with her first child, a week overdue. Within an hour of her being admitted, the nurse started an IV drip of oxytocin, the hormone that causes uterine contractions.

Inducing labor typically follows a pattern- The medication is gradually increased with the goal of contractions every 3-5 minutes. Once that happens, it is a matter of waiting for the cervix to shorten and open and the baby's head to come down. Progress is usually slow early on, but once the cervix reaches 4-5 cm the bag of waters can be broken and labor accelerates. From that point delivery is usually 5-8 hours a way. Usually. This baby did not get the memo and had other plans.

It took four hours for the contractions to fall into a reasonable pattern and then, after just a few minutes of strong contractions, the baby voiced its displeasure. Almost every contraction was associated with an ominous slowing of the fetal heart rate, a sign that oxygen supply to the baby might not be enough to withstand the stress of labor. Worried, the nurse decreased the dose of the oxytocin to slow the rate of contractions. The heart rate tracing quickly returned to normal but was unfortunately coupled with an arrest of progress. After about an hour the nurse again increased the medication and the contractions increased. After 30 minutes there was minimal progress but also a return of the worrisome heart slowing. The nurse again decreased the oxytocin and called me.

"I do not feel comfortable continuing the oxytocin as the baby is not tolerating it. If you want it continued you will have to come in," was her report.

I canceled the rest of my patients for that day and hurried to the hospital. I examined the mother and inserted a pressure monitor to allow for better monitoring of the contractions. The nurse increased the medication again. Within 30 minutes the heart rate dropped again. I rechecked the mom and discovered that she had made slight progress but had a long way to go.

I debated what to do. I did not want to give up and do a c-section, but I was not sure the baby cold withstand several hours of labor. I called an obstetrician friend whose office was next to the hospital, asking him to be ready to come at a moments notice should things take a turn for the worse. I them settled in for a long afternoon.

I spent much of my time in the room with mom and dad, and we talked about the baby and their plans. They shared their daughter's name and told me how they had painted her room pink. She was their first and they were truly excited. I assured them that we were going to monitor the baby closely to make sure that she was okay. We hoped for a vaginal delivery but were ready to do a c-section if necessary.

The pattern from the morning continued and my concern increased. Around four in the afternoon the mom's temperature started to rise, yet another worrisome sign. I called the obstetrician again and we made arrangements for the c-section to be done around 5:30. I performed the necessary physical exam and dictated the pre-operative note into the hospital system.

At 5 pm, 5 hours after I had arrived back at the hospital, I went back into the room to perform one final exam before taking her back to the operating room. To my surprise, she was completely dilated! To my disdain, her temperature had climbed further. Since it was now apparent that a vaginal delivery was possible, I put the surgery on hold. Over the next nerve racking hour I remained in the room as we instructed the mom how to push and continued to monitor the baby's disconcerting heart tracing. I called the neonatologist (specialist in small and sick newborns) and asked if he could be present in the delivery room. I was worried that the baby might not be totally healthy immediately after birth.

When the time for delivery came, I focused on getting the baby out and handed over to the neonatologist as quickly as possible. As soon as the cord was cut I turned and gave the baby to the specialist, who began to examine and stabilize the child. After about 30 seconds he turned to the father who still was standing at his wife's side.

"Dad, you can come over here and see your baby if you like," he said.

The father came order to the baby warmer and looked down at his newborn child. In a perplexed tone he said, "Um... Honey?"

The mom started laughing, "Are you going to tease me and tell me it's not a girl?"

The neonatologist looked up, "You didn't know you were having a boy?"

I started laughing, "I sure hope he likes pink!"

In that moment all of our worries and concerns faded away into laughing, as we celebrated their healthy little BOY!

They had planned and prepared for parenthood, attended classes, and painted a room. Yet, in spite of their best plans, they were not prepared for the surprise the future held. Isn't that how life works?

It was no different with the birth of Jesus. The knew a baby boy was coming but there was no way that Mary and Joseph were fully prepared for what was in store. They knew Mary was having a boy, but how could they comprehend the truth of incarnation? Recipients of angelic visits, I doubt they were prepared for the shepherds' tale or the testimony of the wise men. They assuredly expected people to question their morality, but were they prepared for that stigma to follow them so intensely for the rest of their lives

Their experience foreshadows what we all experience in our journeys of faith. God reveals a small amount of what he Has in store for us, just enough for us to be confident in His promises and calling, but our walk of faith will certainly contain surprises.

This is the 6th and final Amazing Childbirth story, leading up to the Greatest Childbirth Story, the birth of Jesus Christ. (for the other stories click here, here, here, here or here)Please consider sharing these stories with your friends as a way to bring a new perspective on the Savior's birth. Merry Christmas!

5 lessons from Phil Robertson's GQ Interview

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I do not know much about Duck Dynasty, having only seen one episode. My initial impression was that guys that wealthy should be able to afford a haircut and a straight razor. Other than that they seemed to be good guys from a traditional family who shared a common love for God, fun and killing ducks.

I paid more attention to the Robertson family this week after reading about the “controversy” over remarks made by Phil Robertson, the patriarch of the family. I am either to smart or too ignorant to wade into the specifics of the remarks and the response, but believe I have learned a few lessons (5 to be exact) from the story that are valuable to those of faith-

1- Be careful who you talk to. Phil gave an interview to a reporter from GQ, a secular magazine with a decidedly secular world view. Reading the interview it is clear that the author is neither a person of faith nor a person with deeply held traditional values (the article is peppered with profanity.) The writer spent hours with the Robertsons and included only a handful of significant quotes. Giving that much time to a reporter antagonistic to your views is almost certain to result in your quotes being cherry-picked in support of the writer's agenda.

2- Be careful what you say. Think before you speak, and choose words carefully. When it comes to controversial subjects, have a prepared response that has been prayed about, reviewed by others you trust and committed to memory. If you do not have a prepared response, don't give one. There is no shame in saying, "While I have feelings on the issue, I want to be careful in my response. Let's come back to that later." Phil's responses were more inarticulate than incorrect. Caution may have prevented some of the backlash.

3- Address your remarks to the audience. GQ is not a magazine that targets men of faith. It's readers are mostly secular in their worldview. Many aspects of the Christian faith that are commonly understood by believers are completely foreign to those with an unchurched background. Many of those reading Phil's words do not even believe in God at all, and many that do may still consider the Bible to no more than a fable or a fairy tale. Words such as sin, salvation, and repentance may as well be in a foreign language. We need to address the audience at their level of understanding. A perfect example of this is the Apostle Paul's address to Greek Philosophers in Acts 17. Read the passage and you will note that this great evangelist never uses the name of Jesus and does not quote a single passage of scripture! He does however make reference to Greek gods, poets and philosophers.

4- Stay focused on the message. As Paul declared in his Acts 17 sermon, our root problem is that we reject God's ways and choose to live according to our own rules instead. There are consequences to that rebellion, which is why Jesus came. People love to start arguments over hot button issues such as abortion and gay marriage. Resist the temptation to debate moral issues apart from agreement on God's established moral law. When asked what we think about a specific issue or behavior a good response is, "We are all broken and we all have chosen our way over God's in one way or the other. Every one manifests their brokenness differently, but we all share the same root problem." Every sinful behavior is a manifestation of an attitude that declares that our thoughts, feelings and desires are more important than what God has set forth.

5- Remember- you don't have to declare the whole gospel to every person every time. Say as little as needed and as much as can be received. We don't convince or convert anybody. That is God's job. If you go back to Acts 17 you will see the outcome of Paul's remarkable message- "a few believed".

We live in a world that is increasingly hostile to the Christian faith.We need to proceed with caution, heeding the exhortation of Paul in Colossians 4 - "Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone."

6 things you know that your doctor doesn't

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We doctors may be intelligent but we are not always smart. Some things that are obvious and well known to our patients completely escape us. Here are some important things you know that we probably don't.

1- Our explanations are so confusing that you have no idea what we are talking about.

We think you understand us, but we are often wrong. We are so accustomed to using big words and medical terms that we can talk for 10 minutes and not say anything that makes sense. I recently observed a student interview a young patient about migraines. She asked, "Do you have an aura?" The patient replied, "No." I then asked the patient if he knew what an aura was- "Nope!" He had no idea! This kind of  poor communication is common. Tell us when you don't understand. You deserve an answer that makes sense.

2-How much your medication costs.

Medication costs vary widely and many doctors have no idea how expensive a prescription is. I have seen patients pay $115 for a prescription at a major chain pharmacy that could be purchased for $10 at a discount store. I have also seen dermatologists prescribe an expensive brand name acne antibiotic instead of a generic version of the same medication. The difference in cost- $900 a month! The dermatologists had no clue! Tell your doctor when your medication is expensive and ask for other options.

3- How rude or nice the office staff is.

Doctors are often very poor business managers. They are frequently unaware of the customer service provided by their staff. They probably don't know how long you were on hold, how abrupt the staff was when you arrived, are how long you waited before your needs were addressed. Before leaving and finding another doctor (with equally rude staff), let your doctor know how you are treated.

4- Your Name

This one is embarrassing. I frequently encounter patients while out at the movies or shopping. Many times I am better at remembering diagnoses and medications than I am a patient's name! On more than one occasion I have made my wife hurry down a different store aisle to avoid seeing a patient whose name I could not recall! Be kind and reintroduce yourself!

5- What your insurance covers

Most doctors contract with multiple insurance plans, all of which have different rules, provider networks and conditions for coverage. We just can't keep up with it all. You may be more likely to know which lab to use, what hospital to go to or what your co-payment is than we are. It is wise to confirm with your doctor or insurer before getting tests or X-rays done or before seeing a specialist.

6- How worried and frightened you are

We deal with illness every day. You don't. As a result we may forget how frightened you are of a serious diagnosis. We sometimes say things like, "We want to make sure it isn't cancer," and think we are being reassuring. What the patient hears is-"You might have cancer!" Fear and panic may set in. Cancer may be low on the list and we may just be being thorough, but our words cause needless worry. If you are worried or fearful, tell us! 

 We are doctors and we are educated, but we are still people, with all of the limitations that come with being human. Communication is a common weakness. Our patients are uniquely equipped to help us do better, because you know things we don't!

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The Key to avoiding conflict in your marriage

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Ever wonder why you fight? A recent patient interaction illustrates a common reason-

The visit was for a physical. His form stated his marital status as “divorced” so I asked him about it. They had been married for 26 years. It had not always been wonderful, but he thought they were making progress. A few months prior to the visit he went for a week long trip, and when he returned she was gone, packed up and moved back in with her parents. No real reason as far as he could tell. They had discussed “it” many times, yet he still wasn't sure what had happened.

I wasn't sure how to help him understand, so I simply did what Family Doctors are trained to do. We are taught that common things occur commonly, so I looked for a common cause of "unexplained" conflict. Frequently, sudden decisions are emotional decisions, so I ventured a guess- maybe she just felt really unhappy and didn't know why.

 “Some people are very emotional, and just feel things," I said, "the feeling is so strong that they just believe it,  and then afterwards work to develop an explanation for the feeling. If you try to rationally show them why their explanation doesn't make sense, they may not be able to let go of the feeling. Instead they will just come up with another explanation, and then another.  Since they feel it so strongly, they are sure it must be true. Maybe she just felt really unhappy, and you were blamed.”

“THAT'S IT! YOU NAILED IT!” He replied.

While diagnosing the cause of the conflict was easy, providing a cure for such conflicts is not. How do you deal with conflict that is based in emotions? The key is to realize it is an emotional conflict and to learn that emotions can't always be trusted.

A question I often ask people who seem to be driven by emotions in this- “Is it possible to feel something strongly and believe something deeply and be wrong?” Almost everyone answers "yes," but then is stumped by the follow up question, “So how do you know when you are right?” If we can't trust our feelings, what do we trust?

Stories such as this patient's lead to me to reflect on my own marriage and how we have been able to avoid such conflicts. I think it might be because as people of faith we believe that our own thoughts and emotions are inherently flawed and untrustworthy. We naturally question our feelings and measure them by an external standard. (As Christians, it the teachings of the Bible that provide us with a standard.)

For people who have no such external compass, no standard by which their thoughts can be measured, resolution is much more difficult. When spouses disagree it devolves into an argument about which person is “right” and which person is “wrong.” The dispute is either “won” by the better debater, or by the person whose feelings are the strongest. Most often, no one wins and the conflict is never fully resolved.

Personally, I have learned that when I start from a place of "Maybe feelings are wrong," agreement is less elusive, and arguments and conflict can be avoided. (Of course if I start with “I am wrong and she is right” there is no argument at all!) Next time you have a conflict, don't automatically trust your feelings. Question your emotions, and challenge your thoughts. You may be surprised.

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